ok, it's 3 am and i just finished my love actually slides for presentation tomorrow. somehow i don't feel terribly sleepy today.

and today is not completely a dance post, its a whole list of thoughts sparked off from something my friend told me haha
one of my friend's boyfriend got angry with her because she's doing a stunt with a guy, and he has to lift her. haha. i can just imagine that he'd explode if she ever tried latin dancing.


well, today is a good day. altron and i confirmed our partnership for 1 year, we'll probably have to break partnership in year 2 and whether we'll continue after that depends on what we're doing also. but anyway, it's pretty cool, and our first full competition together will be in march. he wants to dance all 5 latin dances!!! it will be challenging! (:

anyway, we had to discuss which comps we intend to participate in, which dances we wanna try and which studio we want to learn from, there're a lot of politics and it's hard to hop from studio to studio without offending people, especially since we both already started competing, so i guess i'll just follow him to his current studio.

anyway,linking to 'love actually' this whole partnering thing is really quite complicated. it's almost as complicated as dating la. people get upset when their dance partners break partnership. like breaking up. hahah, some partnerships end well, some partnerships end up with both parties upset.


i guess after all, if you train together for so long, there should be at least a bit of chemistry and there's still an emotional connection, and it feels weird to see your partner have a new partner. after u train together for a while, you get used to their style, and you know the common mistakes they make, the rough size of their steps, you get used to how they move, how to hold them, and its very hard to keep switching partners, cos u have to re get used to it i think.


you also have to deal with the problem of the possibility of falling in love with your partner, which, in all honesty, would be quite easy i think.

All the factors for falling in love are there:

1. You spend a lot of time together (training, technique classes, comp routine classes!!!)
2. dancing involves some physical contact obviously (at the minimum, there's hand holding)
3. you get pretty comfortable (comfortable enough to argue about steps and mistakes too)
4. there should be a level of chemistry (at least enough to look like a couple on stage and make the audience believe that you are in love)
5. you probably do generally like your partner as a person (otherwise why'd you go into longterm partnership with them right?)


that's why a lot of dancers end up dating each other. so i guess you really need to be clear about what you want, and draw certain boundaries too, like separating dance from life in general.

but then again, when you're actually dancing, it doesn't really feel weird to hold someone else, both of you are not really thinking about the fact that you're holding each other's hands, you're more concentrated on what the steps are, what the expression and the music counts should be. but then, from an audience point of view, it's different i guess.

anyway, i concluded that as long as i intend to dance latin with a fixed partner, i probably have to be single. it's possible to date and dance at the same time, but there's so many potential problems.

i don't think i could date a boy like that, though i would actually understand where he's coming from. anyway the time thing is a big problem too, i'd be upset too if my boyfriend spent more time training with his partner than with me.


it's hard for a boyfriend to accept that right?

but i couldn't give up my dancing either.
so i concluded that i probably shouldn't date and dance.

ok that was a very long post, and i think it's a pretty honest post, maybe cos it's 3. 30am now and maybe im trying to figure out what im thinking too. i confuse myself a lot.